“To be as good as our fathers we must be better, imitation is not discipleship.”

–Wendell Phillips

Yesterday was Father’s Day and I hope everyone had a grand day this weekend celebrating their dads. It is a day of great joy and appreciation for many, if not most of us. That is a huge blessing that should never be taken for granted. For some, however, the holiday is a challenge because the moments of love, of mentoring and guidance, of support, that fill the tributes of others to their dads, are absent or are rendered toxic by a very different experience. I am one of those folks and the holiday used to be hard for me but now I use the day to appreciate the proxies (my mom doing double duty, my brothers, some teachers and role models I adopted) and pay homage to them and in making sure that I measure up in my parenting to Mr. Phillips’ rubric. 

Read yesterday’s Thought. Thought of the Day (TOD) is selected by Rick Larios, Monday-Friday, minus public holidays and an arbitrarily chosen summer vacation. Saturday and Sunday, Stacey will be selecting TODs from the archives of past postings. Often, but not always, a comment comes with the quote. TOD originates as a personal email list-sharing and is further shared here with permission. A poem appears in full on Fridays; the copyright belongs to the poet and/or publisher. Buy poetry you like. It will be good for you, good for poets, and order from your local community bookstore and it will be good for them too.